Are rebounds healthy?

A rebound relationship is the one in which a person gets involved in a bond that shortly follows end of the previous one. Rebounds can be a disaster if the feelings regarding your ex aren't sorted or clear. A rebound relationship generally seek physical needs or emotional needs or both. People tend to idealize their past relationships and end up expecting the same things from their new partners.

"To bring out the emotions and feelings you received from your ex, you will have to go back to your ex and only ex because every human is different and the way they love others is different too."

The unsorted or the so called 'I am still confused' or 'I don't know how I still feel about him/her' feeling can lead to repetition of mistakes or patterns in your upcoming relationships. After getting intimate emotionally or physically with your new partner you might end up hurting them and missing your ex even more. Even if things are straightly mentioned that the rebound relationship is just for physical or emotional satisfaction, those unresolved conflicts in your head will irresistibly end up making you feel more frustrated. Rebound relationships are great if you weren't really attached to your ex or if you have finally unraveled feelings in your head. The transparency within you about how you are going to see your connection with your ex or not going to keep any connections in the future at all is very important. Just throwing yourself into a rebound all messed up without any clue, only to fulfill your needs is selfish. You need to gain stability first after the separation from your previous romantic companion. Giving yourself time and going through the whole process of moving on instills a sense of clarity with a more realistic approach towards future intimate bonds.

This process of moving on is just like the process of digestion. Accepting bitter but true facts in your system is as good as accepting tasty but unhealthy food in your digestive system. We all better know those moments when we badly indulge into unhealthy eating which upsets our stomach terribly. We feel heavy, dizzy or nauseous because it has become laborious for our digestive system to take that much amount of unhealthy food inside. We pretty much can't do anything about that food now. Like we can't take it out; once it's gone it's gone. The only thing now we can do is take up digestion-aiding supplements and simply take a break from heavy food and have extremely light meals. This is just like those moments of a breakup where you have to take up the facts inside your brain most of which are just toxic for you and make you feel anxious; like your world has turned upside down and you just lay there with that heart sinking feeling. It doesn't matter if those two people have parted ways for good or bad, this is something which undoubtedly happens to people and there's no going back from that feeling. Just like the digestion gets disturbed due to unhealthy eating, in the same way your mental health also gets hindered due to unhealthy, toxic thoughts. This is the most difficult part of the process. You have to cool yourself down, take help from your friends, family or professionals and take a big break from the dating scene just to analyse where you stand. You need to do things which will sustain your mental health.

Just imagine what will happen if you don't take care during indigestion and instead eat heavily when your body is still not up for it. You might probably get diseased, making you weaker and taking up more time to heal now. Similar occurrence takes place in a rebound relationship. Adding one more person in your life is as good as that heavy meal that has to be avoided because our brain hasn't really processed the early separation completely yet. Things are yet remaining to be absorbed, assimilated and excreted and putting in an extra element to the system that appends to the instability will take you down to the path of mental illness. We need to avoid this and become completely stable first.

We need to scan the relationship; realize where things went wrong, what were the unrealistic expectations, what could have been done to improve things, what characteristics you want and what you don't want in your future partner(s). This is analogous to the process of absorption and assimilation. Till now you were just trying to digest the facts superficially but the need of absorbing and assimilating them in your brain is of utter importance. Here you reach a state of acceptance where the fact that 'this relationship is over' gets fixed inside your head. Now you are ready to excrete all the waste you have been through, feel light and ready enough to try out heavy meals. This is the time when you should reenter the dating scene, when you finally have the competence to let go that person whom you might have really loved but was toxic enough to hold on tight. We need to have some mercy on our mental health and really surrender what's destructive.

Give adequate time to yourself and make conscious choices!