Psychological perspective of a Karmic Relationship.

What do you understand about a karmic relationship? It is a type in which two people instantly feel drawn towards each other and experience immense passion. Speaking from a psychic perspective, these relationships often teach us lessons that we were unable to grasp in our previous life. Such a relationship is never an easy one and is full of drama from start till the end. All red flags are seen right from the beginning but the bubble of love never lets us acknowledge those till there comes no other option but to acknowledge. The connection is so intense that those two people feel that they are meant to be together but they are often surmounted by the veracity of the vicious statement. A point to be noted here is that this experience is not restricted to only lovers. It can occur with anyone in any form.

For those of you who believe in karma and past life, understanding of the concept will come pretty naturally but for those who don’t believe in it; don't worry, we will try to look at it from a psychological perspective. Let us take our childhood traumas which is something the very famed psychologist Sigmund Freud talked about. His psychoanalytic theory often revolves around the effects of our childhood traumas on our current relationships. When experiencing these ‘karmic relationships’, don’t you feel like your basic fears are surfacing? Don’t you feel like the thing you were afraid of the most, which you tried best to suppress in the deepest areas of your mind are now coming up again? Most of the time we are scarily obscure about the reasons behind those fears. But if we think deeply, we can realise that it often stems from trivial episodes faced in family, school or other social places.

Those emotions that have been a weakness since childhood are reflected now in these relationships. So many times such unions end up in a cycle, drawing those two people towards each other even if they desperately want to get out of it. This is because their weak emotions, for example, guilt, low self esteem, fear of abandonment, jealousy, sadness, etc are ironically balanced and fuelled by the same person. It is like they have the power to make each other feel at the top of this world but not without the company of those weaknesses. It indeed is overwhelming. One needs a certain kind of commitment and acceptance from the other to wipe off the fears but little do they realise that they are the only ones who are feeding to each others’ already activated anxieties. It is like calling a gas station instead of a fire brigade station to stop the fire at your house. Sounds wistfully funny to me. No wonder, going back to each other repetitively feels unexplainably hopeful about things getting better but the feeling lasts as short as a second. Those two people who surfaced each others’ fears can hardly be their means to heal, yet they find solace in each others’ arms; unknowingly pretending that the relationship is magical.

The best thing to do will be being grateful to each other as they finally let the camouflaged angst in them to come out. This is a sign from the universe that you need to work on it and learn the purpose behind this karmic relationship. They say, the only way to get out of a karmic relationship is to learn the lesson because ‘that was the only reason those two people came together’. But if the lessons are not learnt then there will be no other choice for the universe but to repeat the pattern, to make you fall into another karmic relationship. That is what most of us fall into, don’t we? We don’t heal from the past baggage and hastily add another one. I know this might sound vague but you do attract that typical energy again from which you were trying to escape. You create a trap for yourself!

Instead, after coming out of one, focus on yourself and work on all that needs attention. Take literally whichever way helps, be it holistic approach, psychic healing, medical assistance, energy healers or psychologists. There can be many other ways to understand this and heal from such relationships, but as always mentioned “willingness is important first”. It might not be necessary to become a monk, but at least to reach a healthy mindset and body.

Attaining perfection is impossible but not doing something about what is destroying you is foolish.